From A Girl's Perspective - Part 1.

Morning blog lovers, so last week we learned a lot about how boys think and this week’s it’s time to find out about girls and their perspective on love, lust and losers. With pride I present to you the first installment in the series ‘From A Girl’s Perspective’. Boom.

What’s the first thing that attracts you to a guy?

Swagger. Cheekiness. Imperfection. Good banter. Unusualness.

How do you know someone fancies you?

No idea. I tend to think if boys look at you, they fancy you, but the reasons they look at you can be so varied, so basically yeah I’m completely clueless.

When do you feel most like yourself?

When I’m alone. When I’m going for long walks.

What life advice would you give to your 16-year-old self?

Don’t be scared to be different. Some people might hate it, but others will love it.

What’s the main difference between boys and girls?

Boys are pragmatic, girls are intuitive.

What makes you fall for a guy?

Wit. Wisdom. Worldiness. Warmth. When he’s good with words. When he’s good with a lot of things.

Do you believe in ‘moments’?

Real moments are rare, but when they happen, they mean something.

What things put you off a guy most? What’s a deal-breaker?

Cheaters. Players. Boys in bands. Good-looking guys, who know they are good-looking. Ugly guys who think they are good looking.

If you could go out with any guy who would it be?

It would have to be a guy, who is not scared of me. A guy who’s man enough to stand up to me. And most importantly a guy who knows what he wants and what he wants is me.

Three-day-text rule. Yes or no?

If you really like him, text back straight away. If you don’t really like him, don’t bother.

What makes the perfect date?

Randomness. Spontaneity. Getting outside of your comfort zone. I for example love to go on random bus trips to the middle of nowhere and then have a chicken burger. Or two and then go canoeing. I’m not one for fancy restaurants.

Beauty or Brains?

Brains.

Style or Substance?

Substance.

Blonde or Brunette?

I love it all.

Husband or Hottie?

Hot Husband.

From A Boy's Perspective - The Sequel - Part 2.

Morning beloved readers, so this ‘From A Boy’s Perspective’ series is turning into a classic already. However, from the feedback I received from my loyal (mostly female) readership, this first guy is a nice guy, but puts on a show to impress and this second guy is really old and disillusioned with life.

Personally, I believe that today’s boy is the most truthful reflection of what guys are really like. Enjoy.

What’s the first thing that attracts you to a girl?

Physical attraction is instantaneous. I'm a leg man personally...

How do you know someone fancies you?

A visceral feeling. A simple glance or flirtatious chat can do it.

When do you feel most like yourself?

With close friends and family.

What life advice would you give to your 16-year-old self?

Lay off the....

What’s the main difference between boys and girls?

Dangly bits. Jokes aside, men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

What makes you fall for a girl?

Beauty and compatibility.

Do you believe in ‘moments’

Yes.

What things put you off a girl most? What’s a deal-breaker?

Neediness.

If you could go out with any girl who would it be?

Katy Perry

Three-day-text rule. Yes or no?

No.

What makes the perfect date?

Plenty of jovial light-hearted laughter, good food, followed by sexy time.

Beauty or Brains?

Both.

Style or Substance?

Both.

Blonde or Brunette?

Brunette.

Wife or Vixen?

Wife to settle down with; Vixen to play with.

From A Boy's Perspective - The Sequel.

So yesterday I actually got a boy to talk about feelings. OMG. Today I have another one doing it, too. I don’t know what’s going on either, but it’s good. Read and learn.

What’s the first thing that attracts you to a girl?

Smart and reserved. I’m a quiet person so get deterred by loud 'in your face' girls.

How do you know someone fancies you?

So far I have no idea, I’m normally surprised when I find out. If they talk to me for longer than 2 weeks, I assume they either want to be my friend or they fancy me, that narrows it down.

When do you feel most like yourself?

In the winter, at my parents, hanging out with my dog and closest friends.

What life advice would you give to your 16-year-old self?

Try harder at school. Although I don't think I’d be anywhere different if I did. I only tried at the things I cared about, and school wasn’t one of them.

What’s the main difference between boys and girls?

I don’t think I know a girl well enough to compare to be honest!

What makes you fall for a girl?

Complacency but with ambition. I’m not one for 'career girls', there's more to life than a desk; but I hate the ones who feel they have to spend half their life travelling to 'find themselves'. I like girls who are satisfied with where they are, but are always thinking of where they're going.

Do you believe in ‘moments’?

Yes.

What things put you off a girl most? What’s a deal-breaker?

'Paid for' girls, not hookers, just girls who have had their destiny determined by other people's money and don’t have anything to show for themselves. That, and girls who immerse themselves in drama; life isn’t complicated so why make it so.

If you could go out with any girl who would it be?

At the moment, no one.

Three-day-text rule. Yes or no?

Maybe. I did it once without even realising it. Sometimes you need time to think about something and don't want to make a drama out of something it shouldn't be. Personally I’m pretty blunt, so I wouldn’t let a 'text rule' represent how I feel, I’d just give it to them straight.

What makes the perfect date?

I pay for everything, which doesn’t exactly make it perfect, but I’m so bad at everything else that's probably the only good thing a girl would take away from it - money saving, ASDA *slaps back pocket*

Beauty or Brains?

Both! I don’t think it works otherwise unless you're happy with being bored with your partner.

Style or Substance?

Substance. I’ve fancied loads of girls who aren't that stylish. You can be pretty and interesting but have no 'style'. I’m not fussed.

Blonde or Brunette?

Brunette. Every blonde scenario I’ve ever been involved with has fucked up. I like red hair though, like Rihanna red...

Wife or Vixen?

Wife, I’m boring.

From A Boy's Perspective.

The other day I had a revelation. I’m getting a bit bored of my girly wailings about love and life and never understanding either. So what better way to figure out what boys want than ask one of them. What do boys actually reckon about love and attraction and all the complicated stuff that’s going on between people?

So with pride I present you my first ‘From A Boy’s Perspective’ guest blog. And feel assured these insights are invaluable. Use them to your advantage and read up on football. And behave like a lady. And learn how to cook. And shower for God’s sake. Read why below.

What’s the first thing that attracts you to a girl?

Confidence met with intelligence.

How do you know someone fancies you?

They make you food!

When do you feel most like yourself?

Being physical, experiencing and understanding nature, being with people.

What life advice would you give to your 16-year-old self?

Be confident in your own abilities, never be afraid of failing. Take time out to experience stuff. Never be afraid of asking what seem like stupid questions.

What’s the main difference between boys and girls?

Girls like shoes, boys like football.

What makes you fall for a girl?

Confidence, social proof - seeing that a girl has an active life...hobbies, talents, events, passions etc. The stuff you look for in anyone...

Do you believe in ‘moments’?

Every minute is a moment!

What things put you off a girl most? What’s a deal-breaker?

Messy room, just messiness in general. Lack of personal hygiene. Sofa sitting. Laziness. Lack of drive/ambition.

If you could go out with any girl who would it be?

Julianne Moore

Three-day-text rule. Yes or no?

Not text 3 days after meeting someone? Naaah, never leave it that long. 3 day text is a myth.

What makes the perfect date?

Food, drink, a touch of culture, laughter, randomness...

Beauty or Brains?

Both!

Style or Substance?

Can't have one without the other, m'fraid…

Blonde or Brunette?

Redhead!

Wife or Vixen?

Lady.

Some words (mainly about NOT liking someone)

Hello, hello so the other day I wrote about how you know a guy fancies you, but sadly in this bleak, self-indulgent world, it happens more often that the guy doesn’t fancy you. I know, I know it’s hard to accept that kind of shit cause you’re witty and beautiful and charming (at least I hope you are), but there are many fish in the sea, many cherries on the tree, so read this and try to acknowledge that there’s a possibility he isn’t interested in you. This is how you know for sure.

If he doesn’t make any effort to be with you, he doesn’t fancy you. Reference this also.

If he reclines your invites more than twice, he doesn’t fancy you. Once can be forgiven, he might be busy, girl!

If it takes him longer than two days to text back, he doesn’t fancy you.

If he talks about other girls, he doesn’t fancy you.

If he looks rough as fuck, he went out with another girl last night and, duhh yes, he doesn’t fancy you.

If he never looks at you, he doesn’t fancy you.

If he never compliments you, he doesn’t fancy you.

If he doesn’t ‘accidentally’ touch you, he doesn’t fancy you.

If the knee-touching trick doesn’t work, he doesn’t fancy you.

If you smile at him and he'll smile back politely but look the other way, he doesn’t like you.

Fashion Fix #31 Jessie J.

Morning lovers, Y.E.S. Fashion Fix is back. I was inspired once again. I know, I know Jessie J is probably the most blogged about singer / style icon right now, but I'm totes jumping on the bandwagon on this one, cause she's one fierce beauty and her style is well worth a mention on here. Plus anyone, who can put on performances like this and create videos like this deserves a special place in my heart.

140 Words

Three-day-text rule. Fuck that shit I say.

Don’t play all your cards at the same time.

‘Moments’ are what make life special. So if you have them, cherish them.

It’s not style over substance, it’s style AND substance.

If he cannot make up his mind, make up yours and move on.

If you make your best effort to be kind, nurture compassion, make the world a better place, then you can say 'At least I've done my best’.

Be nice to the guy that’s nice to you. Choose him over the nasty one. Always. Less hassle, more happiness.

Never go back. Unless it's to a shoe shop.

Whenever you fall, pick something up.

Don’t share all your weird little idiosyncrasies with him straight away. Wait at least one month. Come on girl.

There is no forever, there is only now.

My Albums of 2010

Hello lovers, my albums of 2010 in a few words.

Zola Jesus – Stridulum II

Read this, that’s all.

Perfume Genius – Learning

Makes me wanna give him a big hug. Sadness and loneliness translate very well to his heartbreakingly fragile tunes.

Yeasayer – ODD BLOOD

Makes me wanna embrace the whole world. Makes me happy. Makes me wanna dance. Makes me wanna talk to people about it. Makes for a perfect record.

Kele – The Boxer

TUNAGE. That’s all.

Salem – King Night

Beautiful coffin music. The dichotomy of light and dark makes this intense and powerful, disturbing and beautiful.

These New Puritans – HIDDEN

A masterpiece. One of its kind. Stunning.

The Wanted – The Wanted

Pop at its best.

Johnny Flynn – Been Listening

Pure. Witty. Poetic. Breath-taking. Full of life. It doesn’t get any better than that.

Sleigh Bells – Treats

Great Noise.

Male Bonding – Nothing Hurts

Everyone needs a bit of male bonding every now and then.